"Having a daughter does not make a decent man. Having a wife does not make a decent man. Treating people with dignity and respect makes a decent man." Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez Shortly before she died I was graced to be able to unconditionally apologise to my wife and soulmate for all the words I had said … Continue reading What does it mean to be a decent man?
Finding peace in a relationship when the illusion of separation falls away and real, unconditional love becomes the basis for a relationship.
Until we awaken from our sleepwalking slumber party – the experience of life for many – we usually either indulge our judgements of other people as being right or wrong, good or bad (for example, acting them out through road rage and domestic violence), suppress them, or attempt to change and get rid of them. … Continue reading Why be grateful for people who judge you?
Sri Ramana Maharshi said that he gave the location of the Heart in the right side of the physical chest for those who were still identified with their body. He was clear that in absolute reality our mutual One-Self cannot be located, limited, or confined to a single place in the body. He was coming … Continue reading Can we locate our “Heart-Self” in our body?
"When this body had travelled around the Sun 17 times, I pondered the fact that it is impossible to imagine nothing. Now, a few more trips around that shining orb later, I marvel and stand in awe of the fact that it is impossible to imagine who and what I am ..." Whenever we … Continue reading We cannot imagine nothing …
The core paradigm shift is from thinking that you are inside your body, to the felt knowing that your body is inside of you. This shift of perception is the truth that lies behind the old teaching story of "Before enlightenment chop wood, carry water; after enlightenment chop wood, carry water". Such a radical shift … Continue reading The core paradigm shift of enlightenment
I've noticed a tendency in some people to think they are "telling the truth" to others when in fact it is just their ego speaking. I'm not referring only to the vile abuse prevalent on some social media sites but to many live interactions I've had with people, male and female. At first, knowing no … Continue reading The power of empathic communication
Clairvoyance is the experience of having a vision of a future event before it happens in the physical world. It is not necessarily a vision of what will happen but rather a vision of what could happen – a possibility. But given the unconscious, programmed nature of most humans, a vision of a possible future … Continue reading Clairvoyance and manifestation – what’s the difference?
The Sacred Heart Prayers are meditations that guide you into relaxing and resting into the feeling of Being ... which will bring about: The fulfillment of all desire (wanting) The end of poverty consciousness The elimination of all thoughts of lack and limitation The birth of natural abundance consciousness Your awakening to who and what … Continue reading The Sacred Heart Prayers – principles
A natural, unforced confidence is the essential ingredient in all healthy relationships and all inner and outer achievement. In life few things are certain but one thing I do know for sure that you can tap into the source of natural self-confidence. When you do, you'll gain the ability to act and speak without knowing … Continue reading Feel the feeling of confidence
Some people believe, and even teach, that "we cannot recover from grief but can only learn to live with it". This, in my experience and others I know, is utterly untrue. And a gross disservice to anyone struggling to come to terms with, and heal from, the grief that naturally arises from the death … Continue reading End the Suffering of Grief
The simple principle of letting our thoughts and emotions be as they are, is incredibly powerful – if we then turn our attention within to the silence our mutual Heart-essence. The object of letting thought-emotions be is to remove our attention from them, to stop feeding them, to stop nourishing and nurturing them simply by … Continue reading The Potential Problems with “Let it Be” and “Let it Go”
All negative emotions arise from a prior thought whose origins lay somewhere back in our past. But trying to "think our way out" of these powerful emotions never works. So instead of thinking, one of the most effective, albeit paradoxical, ways to release these feelings is to feel the feelings fully and completely. This … Continue reading Feel the Freedom of Emotional Intimacy
The single greatest factor that holds most of us back from being the person we would love to be, who lives the life we would love to live ... is FEAR. And when it comes to our intimate relationships, fear can raise it's head big time. Most everyone I know feels some fear of … Continue reading Embracing our Fear of Intimacy
Desire for the pleasures of the world was called by Buddha "the root of suffering". In my experience this is absolutely true. However, what is often missed is that desire has two sides to it: wanting and aversion. Aversion is the reverse of wanting, the "opposite side of the coin" we could say. Just as … Continue reading Aversion – the Flip-side of Wanting
There's been much talk and much writing about "the power of now" since 1997 when Eckhart Tolle wrote his book of the same name, and even more perhaps about "the power of awareness" since 1952 when Neville Goddard brought that term into the world via his classic book. Despite all the talk and all the … Continue reading The Power of Present Moment Feeling
True devotion is choosing to rest attention into, and ultimately as, the silence of our mutual One Heart. To live in freedom we must consciously choose to love our Heart-Self, whose nature is freedom, more than we want the pleasures of the world. True devotion is not a conceptual thought – such as "I am … Continue reading The Choice of Non-dual Devotion
The physical world is malleable, like clay, and is not separate from pure I AM Consciousness. Therefore, when our consciousness of the world changes, so too does the world. It is our responsibility to allow Divine I AM Consciousness to transform our thinking such that we can easefully receive the gifts of Divine Manifestation. Our … Continue reading The Power of Naturally Harmonious Thinking
The principle of the "witness" (or observer) who is aware of the entire realm of human experience, is well-known in spiritual circles and the worlds of meditation and mindfulness. At first, for many people the witness takes the form of a mental concept, which, although not the whole truth, is a step up in consciousness … Continue reading Ego: The False Witness
Self-inquiry differs from all other meditations that I'm aware of because all the others require us to dedicate a period of time to their practice, need a quiet place, entail closing our eyes, and demand the removal of external distractions to be fully effective – or even able to be performed at all. Self-inquiry however, … Continue reading Self-Inquiry: The Anytime Meditation
It seems to me that it's only the illusory "doer", or ego, that suffers. So when the notion of being the doer dissipates, through Self-inquiry, there is no-one left to suffer, which I believe is what Buddha pointed us to – the bliss of nirvana. The principle that it is only the imaginary doer who … Continue reading Self-inquiry Made Simple – Part 3
Self-inquiry has been increasingly coming into human consciousness for around 100 years or so, since Sri Ramana Maharshi began teaching it in the early part of the last century. People flocked from all over India and even from Europe and America to sit with him. And gradually his message began to spread as his students … Continue reading Self-Inquiry Made Simple – Part 1
The seed idea for this article came a few days ago when I was driving to Dartmoor, a place where I would very much love to live. So love and the power of manifestation was very much present when this insight arrived. If you've listened to my self-discovery meditations, and read other Silent Wisdom posts, … Continue reading “Me too” Enlightenment – A New Paradigm of Spirituality?
The Sacred Heart Prayers are meditations that embody a radical approach to manifesting change in our lives. The manifestation teachings that are out in the world revolve primarily, and often exclusively, on teaching the practitioner that they can "get whatever they want". These false teachings play to human egoity and mostly focus on getting more … Continue reading Conscious Love Intelligence
Sittting on the summit of Arunachala back in 2005 it came to me that I, as Conscious Being, had not moved even so much as a fraction of a millimetre. Only my body had travelled thousands of miles from England to sit on India's holy mountain. And it came to me that the awakening I … Continue reading The Unmoving Nature of Being
In the Assume the Change meditation, my guiding words assume that the essence of who and what we share as our mutual I AM Consciousness – i.e. unconditional love – can manifest as the person you would love to be, who lives the life you would love to live. Ok, you say, I'm cool with … Continue reading The Power of Love
There are a number of principles, and a fundamental paradigm shift, that set the Assume the Change meditation apart from other manifestation processes. As far as I know it is unique. So, because the process is so different, I've written this Silent Wisdom post to give you a context for listening to the guided Assume … Continue reading Create Your Life from Love
Self-inquiry first guides us to know who and what we truly are as pure I AM Consciousness, the silence of our mutual One Heart. When we devote ourselves to living from this Consciousness our lives unfold spontaneously, easefully and effortlessly in ways that are in the best interests of everyone and all life. The truth … Continue reading Self-Inquiry Made Simple – Part 2
Perpetual peace – the silent stillness of no-thought – cannot be found, brought about, gained or achieved through any practice or technique done by mind. This is the dilemma brought about in some novice mindfulness practitioners by the word "mind"fulness. It is a word coined in the early 20th Century by a writer who needed … Continue reading The peaceful Heart of mindfulness
I named this blog "Silent Wisdom" in honour of the silent, unfathomable, inexplicable knowing that resides in the Heart of us all as our mutual essence. Through personal sharing and stories I explore multiple facets of the diamond that is Heart-centred awareness. Along the way my intention is to elaborate on the principles of living … Continue reading What is the “Silent Wisdom” blog?
Our ability to listen deeply to what other people say, and don't say, is incredibly important. The skill enables us to enjoy quality personal and professional relationships. And ... there is more we can listen to. I was walking in the forest close to my home when I stopped to listen deeply to the … Continue reading The Power of Silence
A mindful healing conversation is a two-way relationship in which both people listen and, when appropriate, ask questions. A key difference between a healing conversation and an ordinary conversation is that we value our subjective intuitive insights, not only objective intellectual analysis. After all, the reality is that if all that was required to resolve your personal or professional problem was intellectual analysis, you would most likely have discovered and implemented that solution long ago ... Click the headline above to read the full article.
Simple solutions and simple ways of handling life are far more appealing – and effective – for most people than trying to implement complex theories, techniques and strategies. And for most of us, the simple act of stopping is a lot more attractive a prospect than adding yet more "doing" in a futile attempt to resolve whatever has been challenging us. Click the headline above to read the full article ...
Apply these principles and enjoy clear, conscious (mindful) communication in your professional and personal relationships. I've kept the explanations as simple as possible so you can read this post quickly and practice easily. Click the headline above to read the full post ...
The existence of ego is a myth. In reality there is no actual entity called an "ego" (a noun), there is only the mental activity, the process, of egoity (a verb). Ego is nothing more than an imagined identity, simply a collection of thoughts many people believe to be who and what they are. Egoity … Continue reading Ego: The Waking Dream of Separation
The way I see life is that we humans are rather like fish who live in an ocean. When the they are swimming around in the ocean, they probably don't think too much about it, it's just so obvious to them. Similarly, we have our existence in an ocean of consciousness whose very nature is … Continue reading Heartful self-compassion
How can a relationship weather the storms, even hurricanes, of conditioned thoughts and emotions that inevitably arise when two people come together in intimacy? The answer in my experience is unconditional Conscious Love. Nothing else has the power to take us through the emotional storms to the peace, joy and freedom that await us just … Continue reading A Great Love
The core of Self-inquiry, the most fundamental principle, is that of asking ourselves, "What is the truth?" The second question of inquiry is "What is the truth of who and what I AM?" Self-inquiry is a phenomenally powerful practice, and yet is so simple it tends to pass most people by. We humans seem to … Continue reading Self-Inquiry Made Simple – Part 4
When we're talking about soul, what do we actually mean by "soul"? To me, soul is consciousness, awareness, being, who we are, literally who we are in the truth and reality of the "IS-ness" of spiritual consciousness that is prior to and yet includes our human embodiment. This soul consciousness is timeless, formless, spaceless – … Continue reading What is a “Soulmate”?
My guess is there are a number of women in this world who would raise an eyebrow or two at the thought of me having the audacity to write about intimate relationships. But, as Chuck Spezzano once said, "Our greatest challenge is our greatest gift". So it was that, after a lifetime of often painful … Continue reading Who am I to Write about Relationships?