In this blog I explore the multiple facets of the diamond I call “Conscious Living through Conscious Loving”. I’ll be covering the practical applications of Conscious Loving to our individual lives, our relationships, and even to our work and creative endeavours.
Most people basically want six things:
- more time
- more money
- more freedom
- more health
- more love
- and more happiness
And these facets of an abundant life are exactly those which Conscious Living through Conscious Loving can enable you to materialise.
In my experience our human love for people, animals, things and places – including what is often called “romantic love” – can be a portal to the timeless, unconditional “Great Love” which authentic spiritual teachers have pointed us to for several millenia.
A (very) brief history of “romance”
Let’s begin with a couple of dictionary definitions of romance:
- “a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love”
- “a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life”
Historically, the term “romance” originates with the medieval ideal of chivalry as set out in its chivalric romance literature. And the word itself seems to stretch back at least to Roman times and is formed from the Latin “Romanicus“.
Romantic love as we know it emerged into the consciousness of Western humanity during the late 17th century to mid 18th century when chilvaric adventure was married to love. This time saw the emergence of romantic poets and novelists like William Wordsworth, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, John Keats, Lord Byron, Percy Bysshe Shelley, William Blake and the Brontes.
Although the romanticsm movement was challenged by political and economic forces during the mid 18th century it seems to me that the notion of romantic love never completely died out in our collective consciousness. And over the years romantic love has gradually come to supplant, largely, other forms of sexual relationship based only on strategic political and economic alliances.
The phrase “Divine Romance” is an expression I borrowed from the title of a book written by a spiritual teacher whom I hold in the hightest regard, Paramahansa Yogananda, who taught that true friendship is the highest form of love.
But I don’t want to dwell too long on historical precedents because ultimately this blog can only be my personal interpretation of the words “Divine” and “Romance”.
My intention through writing Divine Romance is to cross the borders between unconditional spiritual Love – what I call Great Love – and the practical expression of love in our human lives, work, creativity and relationships.
From this Great Love emerges our love for individual people, animals, the natural world and the products of human creativity.
From this Great Love emerges the romantic love for our human beloved. And in my perception our romantic love for our human beloved is actually a glimpse of the Great Love. When we feel romantic love for another that love is like a tiny newborn flower that needs tender nourishment and care.
The emergence of romantic love in this world is, I believe, an indication of the emergence of a greater awareness in humanity. It transcends the economic-political paradigms of relationship and brings human relationship closer to the living reality of Great Love.
When we approach human love in this spirit it can become a portal to the pure Consciousness of our mutual one Heart, our greatest friend who will never desert or betray us.
In my experience, the feeling that emerges upon awakening to our timeless essence, our true Self, is similar to a continual feeling of being in love. It is an incredible beauty. And this is why I use the term “Divine” because I know of no other word that so perfectly captures the essence of this beauty.
We could of course call this feeling-awareness by many names including: joy, happiness, peace, freedom. It’s a feeling of being fulfilled and complete in and of ourselves independently from any external cause. Buddha called it Nirvana or bliss. It is Divinely beautiful.
Think of my use of the word “Divine” in this context as being similar to enjoying the most delicious meal. We may say it tastes “Divinely delicious” and so we savour every mouthful. The consciousness of Divine beauty is similar, to be savoured slowly and with great appreciation and gratitude.
In essence, this Divine Romance blog represents my best effort to contribute to the blossoming of Great Love in our world, to it’s practical application in our daily lives, and to the birth of friendship between all humanity irrespective of gender or race.
PS: Are you are interested learning the “how-to” of Conscious Living through Conscious Loving? If so get in touch for an informal conversation during which I will do my best to answer your questions.
Following that conversation, if it feels appropriate for both of us, I’m happy to offer a completely free 1-1.5 hour session to demonstrate the principles experientially.
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- In-person at my Bristol consulting room
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